how to make two homes one

Alright, you've got the wedding planning in full swing:  venue picked out with the deposit put down; caterer chosen and the tastings are out of the way; final dress fitting, done!  It seems like things are going just as planned until you remember that you now have to figure out how to combine your two houses into one.  

As women, most of us like our space to be organized and neat.   It kind of seems like most men are still living with the college dorm mentality.  Shot glasses from his roadtrips with the boys.  Baseball cards that he's been collecting since he was 15 but hasn't looked at since he was...well, 15.  These things seem so meaningless. You begin counting down the days until you can start throwing them away.  You're thinking, "I mean, who really needs 23 shot glasses?!   Our house will look so much better without all of those stupid tchotchkes!"  Right? Well, not really.

Let's look at this a different way.  If someone walked into our house and started throwing our things away, we'd be ready to kill!  Now, I'm not saying keep all of his knickknacks.  I think it is important to first have a talk with him about throwing his stuff out.  Then I'd have him pick out maybe 5 of his favorites.  He'll probably be more flexible with letting go of some of his things because he's a guy and probably just doesn't care as much as we do.   

When you get engaged, you have to remember that you're combining your lives together.  That means bank accounts (if you decide to go that route), debt (we'll talk about that later) and your houses.  He'll appreciate that you consulted with him rather than just tossing his things in the garbage when he isn't looking. 


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